Good Morning, how are you today? I woke up in the mood to write and sometimes the best thing for me is to surround myself with ‘noise.’ That being said I am reporting from a busy coffee shop in my local town, a small attempt at minimising cabin fever and ‘socialising’ - though be it with mums, babies and the retired, but then there’s the argument that I can’t really call sipping scolding peppermint tea with headphones in socialising? Which brings me nicely on to the topic of these weeks post, the battle between the introvert and the extrovert. Have you heard these terms before? I am positive the voice inside your head is saying yes and you are currently deciphering which bracket you fall within, if you do at all. I constantly feel I need to put a label on my actions and feelings, a habit I am trying to break, I mean I can just want to go home early because I want to, why do I have to have a reason behind it?
The word introvert came into my life when listening to a podcast one morning on my train journey into London, I remember feeling so intrigued by the concept and subconsciously placing myself within a bracket of introvert / extrovert. After an entire train journey going back and forth in my mind I concluded that I am an introverted extrovert, or otherwise known as an ambivert, meaning I enjoy both spending time alone and with others depending on the situation and my needs at that moment.
The life of an ambivert is a funny one and even harder to explain to others, I find myself wanting to be busy and do things with friends or colleagues but also needing time alone. Often for an introvert too much social interaction can be draining, I often find myself that if I have say three really intense days of events, shoots and meetings I need to schedule a day at home to do admin / errands and just be alone to almost recharge my batteries ready for the next event. I have noticed recently that after a solid block of social activities I feel a heaving low feeling weighing me down, it’s almost like ‘holiday blues’ and it really stumps my motivation and activity levels. Something that has been working for me is making sure I spread social situations out across the week and give myself time in between to re-gather my thoughts and spend sometime in a quite minimalist situation. Often being too stimulated via a social activity can leave me feeling disconnected and unfocused a sense of feeling ‘off track’ when I am not physically online is a distraction to me.
I very much love attending events and going for drinks with friends, going on shoots with many people but after such extreme socialising I always need to give myself down time. When your job is 24/7 in the digital world it can become extremely draining and you feel like you can never switch off, which is why I know I need to create a schedule that isn’t necessarily conforming with the norm, it just suits me and my work style.
Just to clarify this post is in no way me explaining why I am like this, its is purely bringing thought to a subject that I find so fascinating. To me it is so interesting how different each brain is and how we as humans react to certain situations so differently, you may be reading this thinking what? I thrive off of social situations and you work in a busy office everyday live with four friends and go out every night, there is nothing wrong with that at all! But where do you think you fall? When you think about your lifestyle what works best for you? I hope you enjoyed this informative, discussion-esque post and I will see you in the next one.